Helping Your Partner Through A Miscarriage

1) Take care of yourself
2) Talk to your partner
3) Set expectations

Take care of yourself — First & foremost, you need to take care of yourself before diverting your attention to your partner. Going through the miscarriage process has many feelings you need to be prepared for.

Talk to your partner — Your partner is sad & confused about what to do. Realize that your partner has a different perspective; they’re sad about the miscarriage but also now worried about your wellbeing. When you are ready, take some time to talk with your partner about their emotions and how you two can best work together to recover.

Set expectations — This can apply to your partner, family, friends, & workplace. People do not know how to react in this situation. Setting expectations for those you share this event with will help them understand how to proceed. With your partner, it might be asking them to not constantly talk about the miscarriage. At work, it might be creating time and space to return to work when you are ready. With your family, it might be boundaries for communication or a respectful ask for time and space before reconnecting.

We each go through this process in a different way; letting the people in your life know how they can best help goes a long way. For people you do not want to share personal information with, feel empowered to respectfully tell them you are dealing with a personal issue. This is your path, do not worry about their perception of it.

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