Bach Flower Remedies gently restore balance between mind and body.
This is crucial for managing miscarriage.
They are in liquid form and easily taken.
They can be found at supplement stores, Whole Foods, etc.
No more than 5 should be used at a time.
Choose the one(s) that relate most to how you feel right now.
They may be combined in a glass of water and taken multiple times per day- 2 drops of each.
The main ones we've found particularly helpful surrounding miscarriage are:
Star of Bethlehem
Rescue Remedy: (Impatiens, Star of Bethlehem, Cherry Plum, Rock Rose, Clematis)
Find a description of each in our eGuide:
A miscarriage can happen suddenly, or take weeks. If it takes weeks, you may experience some cramping and spotting as your body prepares. Physical symptoms will become noticeably stronger when you begin to pass the miscarriage.
Once bleeding and cramping begin, it will continue until all of the tissue, or products of conception, pass. This includes various tissues from the developing fetus, the placenta, and the uterine lining. The longer the gestational age of the fetus, the more intense the cramping is likely to be. This is not always true, however, as we’ve found if you miscarried early on but your body did not recognize it for many weeks, the intensity is often increased more relative to the gestational age. What does this mean? Cramping and pressure sensations may get intense, but as long as you don’t have any warning signs, your body is working beautifully.
Reminder of warning signs: feeling spacey, very sleepy, incoherent, unusually anxious, becoming pale, soaking a pad in 30 minutes, bleeding steadily for more than 2 hours without passing the tissue, or developing a fever. Seek immediate medical attention for any of these concerns.
It's important to monitor yourself for fever the whole time and for a week after to make sure there's no infection from retained tissue. Take your temperature every few hours. Normal is around 98.6 degrees Fahrenheit or 37 degrees Celsius
I recommend keeping a pad in so you can walk, sway, or move as it feels helpful. Use the bathroom often. Empty your bladder frequently to reduce cramping and keep things moving along. You may feel most comfortable sitting on the toilet during this time. Again, just listen to what your body needs.
You will pass clots of blood as well as the fetus, placenta, and sac of membranes. Some women do not see the tissues, but if you would like to see them, or collect them, then keep an eye out. It will be small, milky white or clear, with some light red. Some women keep the tissue for genetic testing purposes (talk to your doctor about if this is necessary for you) or to bury it. There is currently no ritual around miscarriage, so I encourage you to to do something, even just a short prayer. See Section 3 for other ideas.
You should be able to tell when all the tissue has passed. You will likely have a sense of knowing; also, the cramping will reduce significantly and bleeding will slow.
You will likely bleed longer than a normal period, so eat extra red meat and/or take grassfed liver pills. Listen to what else your body needs (this cannot be over emphasized!). Sticking with warm foods for a week afterward nourishes the organs.
Regarding how long you may bleed, it should taper off like a period. Continued heavy bleeding could indicate retained products of conception (tissue), especially if you notice foul smelling discharge or a fever. This is a serious issue requiring immediate medical attention.
Do not put, or allow, anything in your vagina for at least 2 weeks from when you pass the miscarriage. This includes tampons, toys, penis, etc. No baths or hot tubs for the same time frame. Reducing the potential for infection is very important.
LISTEN! You will likely feel a burst of energy and want to be active- resist this feeling and keep resting! Not resting may increase bleeding significantly or create further problems. Though not full term, from your body’s perspective you are giving birth. Your body needs to rebuild, replenish, and rest.
Mindfulness provides a simple but powerful route for getting ourselves unstuck; back in touch with our own wisdom and vitality.
Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and nonjudgmentally.
This kind of attention nurtures greater awareness, clarity, and acceptance of present moment reality. Often associated with Buddhism, mindfulness is actually not a religious concept, and instead a well researched technique used and accepted throughout the scientific community. Also referred to as "heartfulness", mindfulness is a beautiful and deeply healing way to approach life, and especially miscarriage.
I found mindfulness especially helpful during this raw, emotional time of miscarriage, and know you will, too.
5 Science-Backed Reasons for mindfulness:
Understand your pain. Pain is a fact of life, but it doesn’t have to rule you. Mindfulness can help you reshape your relationship with mental and physical pain.
Connect better. Ever find yourself staring blankly at a friend, lover, child, and you’ve no idea what they’re saying? Mindfulness helps you give them your full attention.
Lower stress. There’s lots of evidence these days that excess stress causes lots of illnesses and makes other illnesses worse. Mindfulness decreases stress.
Focus your mind. It can be frustrating to have our mind stray off what we’re doing and be pulled in six directions. Mindfulness hones our innate ability to focus.
Reduce brain chatter. The nattering, chattering voice in our head seems never to leave us alone. Isn’t it time we gave it a little break?